The “Let Them” Theory, Through the Lens of God’s Word

Mel Robbins’ “Let Them” theory has gained a lot of attention lately. The idea is simple, if someone doesn’t include you, respond to you, or act as you hoped, let them. Stop trying to control others and instead free yourself from unnecessary stress.

There’s wisdom in recognising what isn’t ours to carry. But as Christians, we know the “let them” theory only goes so far. God calls us to live anchored in His Word and that means there are moments where we don’t just let them drift or disagree without care.

 

Let Them Choose, But You Stay Rooted

 

God Himself gives freedom. “I have set before you life and death, blessings and curses. Now choose life, so that you and your children may live” (Deuteronomy 30:19).

 

Like the “let them” theory, Scripture reminds us not to force or control others. But unlike the world’s message, God’s Word sets boundaries, our freedom must always align with His truth.

 

So yes, let others make their own decisions. But don’t follow them into compromise.

 

When a Believer Strays

 

If a brother or sister drifts into sin, silence is not love. Paul urges us, “Brothers and sisters, if someone is caught in a sin, you who live by the Spirit should restore that person gently” (Galatians 6:1).

 

Letting them doesn’t mean abandoning them. It means allowing them the dignity of choice, while also stepping in with gentleness, encouragement, and sometimes even rebuke, because love seeks restoration.

 

When We Disagree

 

Not every difference among believers is about sin. Sometimes it’s simply about perspective, practice, or opinion. Even then, we are called to respond in a way that honours God.

 

Paul reminds us in Romans 14:19: “Let us therefore make every effort to do what leads to peace and to mutual edification.” And yet, he also firmly defended truth when it mattered (Galatians 2:11-14).

 

The pattern is clear:

 

·      In disagreements, let them hold their view, but let us speak truth with grace.

·      In disputes, let them explain, but let us pursue peace wherever possible.

·      If division arises, let them differ, but never let go of unity in Christ (Ephesians 4:3).

The Anchor and the Rope

 

Hosea 11:4 says, “I led them with cords of human kindness, with ties of love.” That’s how we balance freedom and faithfulness. We let others live, choose, and even disagree, but we never cut the rope of love, nor do we compromise on God’s principles.

 

The “let them” theory can help us release unhealthy control. But in the kingdom of God, “letting them” is always paired with anchoring ourselves in His Word, correcting with gentleness, disagreeing with grace, and loving without condition.

 

At Anchored Hope, we believe freedom and faith walk hand in hand. We let them… but we also remain steady, holding fast to truth, guiding one another back when we stray, and choosing peace even when we disagree.